Author: salenakane
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Episode 30: Putting Yourself Back Together: How to Create Mental and Emotional Space to Divest
This is it. 🕳 It’s time to divest.
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Episode 29: Memories Without Meaning
Let go of the idea that things might get better if you just endure a little longer. The person you’re with may never change, and that’s a truth you must accept to move forward.
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Episode 28: Rich Black Men Are Psychopathic
Rich Black men, whether celebrities, clergy, or politicians with considerable means, often exploit their own communities and get ahead by manipulating and abusing us.
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Episode 27: Poor Black Men Are Narcissistic
Poor Black men deflect and deny the insecurities that drive their need for validation when they don’t get what they feel is rightfully theirs.
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Episode 26: Dissecting the Black Condition – Black Men Are Bipolar
Episode 26: Bipolarity in Black men is a complex and often contentious conversation. I believe many more are affected than are willing to admit.
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Episode 25: That’s Why I Love and Hate Both You and Me
Acceptance doesn’t mean that the pain goes away, but rather that you learn to coexist with it. Hatred in a love/hate relationship can bring true clarity.
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Episode 24: When Black Men Deny Accountability, You Need to Take Care of Yourself
Self-care requires courage, especially when it means walking away from relationships that perpetuate harm. It’s not just about surviving; life as a modern Black woman is about creating a life where your value is recognized and respected.
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Episode 23: Maybe You’re the Problem: Time to Self-Assess and Recharge
When it comes to dating, maybe you’re causing your own problems. Certain people are naturally mind-numbing and infuriating traits. But haven’t you wondered why you attract them in the first place?
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Episode 22: Your Black Man is a Narcissist: How to Tell and Keep Your Distance
Narcissistic Black men grapple with too many deep personal struggles to be good partners, fathers, or people to anyone. These men can’t cope with shit.
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Episode 21: The Black Fathers Subreddit Is Empty. Even Virtually, Black Fathers Are Absent.
The Black fathers who cared enough to create this space don’t care enough to maintain it. Creating a community of any kind requires active participation.
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Episode 20: Black Women Unmasking Black Men’s Victim Complex
Dear Black men: I will acknowledge that you’ve been victimized. I will acknowledge that victimization still happens to Black men and occurs within and outside of our communities. I will not, however, acknowledge that other people continue to victimize you at every turn. Within our community many problems are not the fault of white people.…
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Episode 19: Rejecting Stereotypes: Why You Should Resist the “Strong Black Woman” Stereotype
As Black women, we know all too well that no community will tear us down like our own. No one else goes out of their way to antagonize us about our attractiveness the way Black men do. Some Black women do this to each other as well. And what strength does that display? The “strong…
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Episode 18: Setting Boundaries and Embracing Ugly Truths
Let’s try to address actual problems without scapegoating. 🐐💩
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Episode 17: Divesting From the Race, Gender, and Class Expectations of Black Culture
Addressing misogynoir and women divesting from toxic masculinity in Black communities.
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Episode 16: Embracing Imperfection: Confronting Your Own Decisions & the Mistakes You’ve Made
Show yourself more compassion after relationships with losers and toxic men. If you don’t you won’t move forward.
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Episode 15: Play Stupid Games, Win Stupid Prizes.
Is this all there really is? It’s crucial for Black women to consider how our culture’s expectations shape our choices and love life.
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Episode 14: Black Men Bombard Us with Eurocentric Beauty Standards
Black women, other men see us. Want us. And love us. Today we’re talking about how Black women can challenge Black men’s cultural narratives through self-acceptance.
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Episode 13: Why It Feels Dangerous to Protect Your Well-Being
Someone has sold you a dream you can’t afford. But divesting from toxic men will recoup what you’re owed. Welcome to the new self-care: strategies to protect yourself from the toxicity rampant with the Black community.
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Episode 12: Afraid to Question the Culture, Being in Your Skin
Girls like us are never allowed to say anything negative, especially about Black men or Black culture, lest we become “uglier” by virtue of our “negativity.”
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Episode 11: Divested Paths: Getting to Where You Want to Be in Life
Strategies for Black women to safeguard their life plans: Protect your privacy while pursuing personal ambitions. And divest.
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Episode 10: Anticipate the Consequences. Black Men Destabilize Your Life.
Black men apply more double standards and unrealistic expectations to black women because they’re embarrassed by us. They think it’s our fault other women see them the way that they do. Adversity Is a False Friend.
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Episode 9: Leave Your Toxic Men and Their Indifference Toward You Behind
As a Black Woman, More of Your Days Are Numbered Than Anyone Else’s.
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Episode 8: Divesting into Something Beautiful
For Black women, divesting taps into the control we have over our own lives and resources. Divestors make a conscious choice to prioritize our safety, health and energy to free ourselves from toxic relationships with black men and their sycophants.
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Episode 7: Trapped in a Desperate Struggle, Black Men Only Know How To Be Loyal to Themselves
No woman should be afraid to walk away from mistreatment. But many black women don’t believe we have a choice. Removing ourselves from our communities can feel like tearing our families and culture apart.
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Episode 6: We Can’t Trust Black Men Because They Never Learned How to Be Good Men
What kind of man is a man if he was never taught how to be one? They let us down in unthinkable ways.
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Episode 5: Black Men Create the Worst Stereotypes for Black Women to Endure
Loving a Black man as a Black woman can feel like cosigning your own oppression.
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Episode 4: Black Women Are Often Viewed as Unworthy by Black Men, Unless We’re Black “And.”
Black men are masters at deciding what you’re worth. Yet their standards for themselves are in the toilet.
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Episode 3: Do I Believe What I Know or What I See?
– Black men talk a lot of shit about black women. But no one knows them like their own.
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Episode 2: Stop Listening to This Nigga. Tune Him Out.
You don’t have to pay attention to men who prove they’re worthless. Do so at your own risk.
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Episode 1: Being a Black Woman Is a Sentence with No Commute.
Can a girl catch a break?
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